Self-Care Friday: Just Say No

I seem to be meeting myself coming and going these days.  As proof of this, notice that I am writing this "Friday" blog post on Saturday morning at, it is as much for myself as it is for all of you.  Learning to "just say no" is so much easier said than done.  I am a natural people-pleaser so this is a difficult one for me.  But, with all of that said, just because something is difficult does not mean it isn’t completely worth it. 

We are not obligated to make everyone happy all the time.  God calls for us to love our neighbors as we love ourselves.  But, I think that we tend to take that Scripture out of context.  We must also remember that the first part of this Scripture states, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.”  If we are spending all of our time over-extending ourselves by saying “yes” to every request asked of us…or obligation that we put onto ourselves, we are leaving very little time, concentration, energy, or rest in order to spend time with our Father. 


So, with this epiphany, I have decided to make some much needed changes in how I schedule my time.  For instance, I have marked 3 days out of next week as “no” time.  I am going to spend those days resting…not necessarily just physically.  I am going to mentally rest and spend quiet time with God so that I can get my mind back to where it needs to of stress and any other thoughts that distract me from resting in Him.  This may sound hokey, and maybe even impossible, especially given how fast-paced our culture is and how easy it is to neglect our relationship with the one who created us.  So, just to prove it to you that it is possible and also to keep myself accountable, I present my calendar…


* P.S. Yes, I AM having a hot tub night on Friday.  It's also considered self-care.  But, that's another post for another time.

God is not wanting busy work from us, He is wanting US.  He wants to spend time walking with us as he did with Adam through the garden or with Moses, sitting on the mountain top for 40 days.  Jesus spent time in thoughtful conversation with his disciples and his followers.  He also took time to get away by himself to reconnect and meditate on His Father, our Father. 

I want to challenge you to take some time to “just say no” and take a brain break and rest in God.  I promise you, it will be totally worth it.   

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